Psychotherapy and Counselling services both online and in person, serving clients in London, Surrey and beyond.
Relationships & Therapy – Attachment, Boundaries & Connection
Understanding Relationships & Mental Health
Our relationships play a vital role in our well-being, shaping how we see ourselves and interact with others. Whether in friendships, romantic partnerships, family dynamics, or workplace interactions, the way we relate to others is deeply influenced by past experiences, attachment styles, and emotional patterns.
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Difficulties in relationships can contribute to feelings of anxiety, self-doubt, conflict, or disconnection. Therapy offers a space to explore relational challenges, build healthier communication patterns, and develop a deeper understanding of yourself in connection with others.
Signs That Relationship Challenges Are Affecting You
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Struggling with trust, intimacy, or emotional vulnerability
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Feeling anxious or insecure in relationships
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Repeating patterns of conflict or avoidance
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Difficulties setting or maintaining boundaries
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Feeling disconnected or emotionally distant
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Experiencing intense fear of rejection or abandonment
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Struggling with people-pleasing or difficulty expressing needs
These challenges can be overwhelming, but they don’t define your ability to form meaningful connections. Therapy helps uncover where relational difficulties stem from and how to build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
How Therapy Supports Relationship Challenges
Therapy provides a reflective space to explore past experiences, attachment patterns, and emotional needs. Whether you’re struggling with romantic relationships, friendships, family dynamics, or workplace interactions, therapy can help:
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Identify relational patterns – Understanding recurring behaviours that may be impacting your connections with others.
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Strengthen communication skills – Learning how to express emotions, set boundaries, and navigate conflict more effectively.
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Explore attachment styles – Recognising how early relationships influence present-day connection and emotional needs.
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Improve self-esteem & self-worth – Building confidence in relationships and reducing self-doubt.
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Navigate relationship transitions – Supporting breakups, new relationships, family challenges, or shifts in social dynamics.
How I Approach Relationship Therapy
I take an integrative approach that helps individuals explore relationships in a way that is both insightful and practical. Therapy may include:
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Psychoeducation – Understanding attachment theory, relational patterns, and emotional responses.
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Exploring relational history – Recognising how past experiences impact present relationships.
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Emotional regulation & communication skills – Learning how to navigate emotional triggers and express needs clearly.
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Incorporating elements of CBT – When relevant, helping challenge negative self-beliefs that influence relationship difficulties.
Therapy provides a non-judgmental, supportive space to explore emotions at a pace that feels right for you, helping you to reconnect with a sense of meaning and motivation.
Common Questions About Therapy for Relationships
Can therapy help if I struggle with boundaries?
Yes, difficulties with boundaries often stem from past experiences or learned behaviours. Therapy can help you develop clearer, healthier boundaries while exploring the emotions that may make them difficult to enforce.
What if I keep repeating the same relationship patterns?
Recurring patterns in relationships often have deep-rooted causes. Therapy helps identify where these patterns originate, offering insight and strategies to create different dynamics moving forward.
How long does therapy take to help with relationship challenges?
For meaningful change, I generally recommend a minimum of 12 weeks, with six months being ideal for deeper exploration and relational shifts. While initial improvements may emerge within a few months, longer-term therapy allows for sustainable change and personal growth.
You Deserve Healthy, Fulfilling Relationships
Relationships can be complex, but you don’t have to navigate them alone. Whether you’re working through attachment challenges, boundary-setting, or relational anxiety, therapy provides a space for understanding, growth, and lasting change.
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I offer therapy for relationships in London, Surbiton, and online, supporting individuals explore and improve the way they connect with others.
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If relationships are impacted by past experiences, you may also find my Trauma & PTSD Therapy section helpful.
Helpful Resources for Relationships
Explore trusted resources offering thoughtful guidance on building healthy, emotionally fulfilling relationships, and understanding relational dynamics.
If you’re looking for therapy for relationships, attachment, or boundaries, I invite you to reach out. Let’s explore how therapy can help you build stronger, more fulfilling connections.
12 St James House, 9-15 St James Road, Surbiton, KT6 4QH, Surrey
Email: faye@kinironstherapy.com
Tel: +44 7756451376