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Neurodivergence and Therapy
Understanding Neurodivergence
The Māori definition of ADHD—aroreretini, meaning "attention goes to many things"—offers a perspective that differs from the traditional deficit-based language. Similarly, autism is referred to as takiwātanga, meaning "in their own time and space." These terms, as introduced by Māori linguist and educator Keri Opai, emphasise difference rather than dysfunction, recognising that neurodivergent minds function in unique ways.
Navigating a Neurotypical World
Society is largely structured around neurotypical norms, from education systems to workplace expectations. This can create challenges for neurodivergent individuals, not necessarily because of their differences, but due to environments that may not accommodate diverse ways of thinking, learning, and interacting.
ADHD, autism, dyslexia, and other forms of neurodivergence bring both strengths and challenges. While some individuals thrive in flexible, adaptive settings, others may experience significant struggles when expected to function within rigid societal structures. Recognising and addressing these barriers is key to fostering a more inclusive world.
Therapy for Neurodivergent Individuals
Recognising Neurodivergence Through Therapy
For many individuals, neurodivergence may not be immediately apparent. It is often through the process of engaging in therapy that someone begins to recognise patterns in their thinking, emotions, or behaviours that align with neurodivergence. Therapy provides a reflective space to explore these experiences and gain greater clarity about one’s unique way of interacting with the world.
Additionally, many people seeking a formal diagnosis for ADHD or autism encounter long waiting lists for assessments, particularly within the NHS. While a diagnosis can be validating and necessary for accessing specific support, therapy can offer immediate guidance, tools, and a compassionate space to navigate challenges while waiting for an assessment. Whether diagnosed or self-identifying, neurodivergent individuals can benefit from therapy that acknowledges and supports their needs.
I provide therapy that acknowledges both the challenges and unique strengths of neurodivergence. Therapy offers a space for individuals to explore their identities, relationships, and life experiences in a way that fosters self-understanding, self-acceptance, and personal growth.
Therapy can be particularly helpful for neurodivergent individuals in areas such as:
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Exploring identity and self-acceptance—moving beyond external labels and societal expectations to develop a personal sense of meaning.
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Processing relational dynamics—understanding how early experiences and present relationships shape self-perception and social interactions.
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Managing anxiety, overwhelm, and executive function challenges through tailored strategies and reflective exploration.
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Addressing feelings of isolation or difference—helping clients feel seen, validated, and connected.
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Navigating work, study, and life transitions—developing approaches that align with individual strengths and values.
For those seeking therapy for ADHD, autism, and neurodivergent experiences in London, Surbiton, and online, my approach provides a reflective, affirming, and individualised space to explore, adapt, and thrive.
Language and Neurodivergence
The way we talk about neurodivergence matters. Traditional medical terminology often frames conditions in terms of deficit and disorder, which can contribute to stigma and misunderstanding. While clinical diagnoses are essential for accessing support and accommodations, it is equally important to acknowledge the strengths and varied perspectives that neurodivergence can bring.
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ADHD involves dynamic attention patterns, not simply a lack of focus.
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Autism encompasses a range of communication and sensory experiences, not just social difficulties.
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Dyslexia can include strengths in spatial reasoning and creative thinking, alongside challenges with reading.
By adopting a more balanced view, we can validate both the struggles and strengths of neurodivergent individuals, ensuring that support systems recognise and accommodate diverse needs.
Creating Supportive Environments
Rather than viewing neurodivergence as something that needs to be "fixed," a more effective approach is to adapt environments to be more inclusive. Schools, workplaces, and communities can benefit from offering flexible learning and working arrangements, sensory-friendly spaces, and diverse communication options to better support neurodivergent individuals.
My practice at Kinirons Therapy is centred around a relational, strengths-based approach to neurodivergence, exploring both internal experiences and external societal influences.
Explore More on ADHD, Autism & Neurodivergence
Explore trusted, neurodiversity-affirming resources offering information, community perspectives, and practical tools related to ADHD, autism, and other forms of neurodivergence. These organisations aim to increase understanding, reduce stigma, and support individuals in navigating work, education, identity, and everyday life.
Life can feel overwhelming when your mind works differently, but support is here. Let’s explore what works for you.
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Email: faye@kinironstherapy.com
Tel: +44 7756451376